BRAT!!!!!

My wife is a brat but I still love her anyway

The End

You are the best part of being Mrs. Bodtcher

I have stopped writing before-

so carefully concealing my thoughts away,

in hopes to avoid another heartbreak.

With all my ambition buried,

you were the last thing I could imagine.

I use to go to strange places

so I could be enfolded

in strange sounds, strange views, strange smells, strangers.

With the emotions lacking of sensation,

youth didn’t seem so hard to let go.

If I could clarify to you what it felt like,

so you would understand

in complete detail, I would.

Without any hopes or aspirations or desires,

you just forget how to put on a pretty face.

I use to be

so surrounded

in a hundred different immense emotions,

within this diminutive character.

You could say all I wanted was goodbye.

I adore the sense of change

so much, because it reminds me of second chances.

In the sense that all can be forgiven

with forgiveness, sympathy, and compassion,

your essence grows from challenges.

I love the warmth from the sun, and the feelings of

soft embrace and surprises and safety,

infinite and unconditional respect.

without a doubt,

you make me feel all these things and more.

I wish I could convey to

someone, anyone, maybe everyone

in train or on a bus,

with or without green eggs and ham, how

you placed together all my puzzle pieces.

I have struggled and skirmished

so to find some kind of flaw

in your flawless perfection.

Without being too demanding,

You said “believe.”

I wanted everything to do with you,

so I believed

in all your words, and thoughts, and dreams.

With sincere words,

you confessed,

“I can’t imagine where I’d be without you

so please take my hand, and let’s run

into the glowing sunset

with intentions of never looking back;

You are the best thing that’s ever been mine”

I’m brought to my knees,

So grateful for all you’ve helped me see.

Inspiration pulses through my arteries,

with deliverance from

you.

I have this faith,

so strong and sure

in everything to do with eternity

with

you.

I know it’s silly, but

sometimes my thoughts are formed

in concerns of you forgetting.

With frequent promptings, I hope

you never fail to remember that

I’m

so

in love

with

you.

of course.

so this semester, I took 5 online classes. Five, to finish up my psychology degree and Online, to avoid commuting 3 hours per day through trax. and also to avoid tedious lectures. I was really expecting chapters, test reviews, and exams. But, I swear, just because I had expected that... I have lectures to watch, discussion posts on my thoughts and such required, a few 6-7 page essays to write, it just goes on and on. What is this?? Whatever happened to simplicity of online classes? Nevermind online classes, but just simplicity of classes in general?! College is suppose to be hard because your grade is based mostly on exams; college isn't suppose to be tedious because you're worried about all the little things to do to fluff up your grade that you have no time to study the course material! blah!

the end.

one more thing:

I forgot to say last night/earlier this morning that I'm so grateful for music. I really do love everything about music. I had tears in my eyes this morning because I loved the rest/rest interruption hymn (...it also be the exhaustion getting to me). but anyway, music is so beautiful, and I'm so glad that I have the ability to appreciate it. I love singing (whatever you can call singing), I love playing the piano (the one song I still remember how to play), I love finding new songs that I love. I love beautiful chords and meaningful lyrics. I love love love that it can move someone's soul and soften someone's heart.

i think music is great!
That's all!

Missing

Okay... lately I've been a wimp about being alone. Actually, I take that back... I've always been a wimp about being alone. I hate it. absolutely despise being by myself. not really sure why it's so hard to take. It doesn't matter if Jer's sitting across the room and we're doing homework and not talking, it's great just being near him.

His preceptorship is killing me.

Jeremy is gone from 6pm-6am tonight (so I have another 6 hours until he's home)... and then he goes back at 2pm-2am. I just feel like I could cry thinking about it. Like if you work a really long shift and you know that you can go home and sleep for like 10 minutes and then you have to go back and work a really long shift again??? this is what it feels like. and yes, I'm in the comfort of our home... with plenty of things to pass my time... and yet, I feel like screammmmmmmmmmmmming. i think I've tried reading my textbooks somemore... watching our wedding video... facebook... laundry... cleaning.......... blog stalking other people... more cleaning...

The wedding video makes me cry. haha I know it's super cheesy. It just reminds me how happy we were (and how much I miss him haha). So to be honest, Jeremy and I had a recent disagreement. mostly because I was getting so annoyed with never seeing him. Sometimes it's hard to be happy you have such a hardworking, determined, smart husband when all you think about is how much less time you spend with him now compared to before you were married (at least in one's mind, hypothetically speaking). Sometimes I wish we had it handed to us- that we never had to work or go to school, and just spend all day in bed. It's all I can do forcing myself to get up, leaving jer, to go to work; I'm sure it's the same for him. It's been so long since we've slept in together, just waking up without an alarm. I remember when we first got married and we would say "wish I could not go to school/work/volunteering, and stay with you in bed all day... but then we'd be the contestants for the biggest loser!" ...and man, how I wish it more than ever.

on the upside. at least I can pretend I'm a pretty good housewife. haha! cleaning/laundry/dishes! BAH HA HA! ha! hahahaha! oh man. Let's change the subject because I feel like I am becoming more and more onery as i type.

Things I am grateful for:
-toilet paper
-education
-vision
-all 6 senses
...........is it five???
-good friends
-trust
-inspiration
-a really really great/my other half husband
-challenges (not while I'm going through them, but being able to look back and seeing what I've accomplished)
-skills
-having parents that taught me to develop the good habit of PLANNING and SAVING MONEY
-growing up (goodness, not growing old).
-emotions
-being independent
-modern technology- where would we be without transporation?
-goals/dreams
-exercise
-warmth
-comfort
-people who are nice to me even when I'm bossy
-forgiveness
-the feeling when you relieve a very full bladder
-puzzles
-dancing
-light warm rain
-picnics
-cute, romantic, 40s dates
-letters
-fresh flowers
-babies
-FOOD
-service***

...I think I started naming things I like...? however... on service. Isn't really such a great thing? I've never loved anything more (maybe that's an exaggeration, because I do love my husband a lot, but...) maybe it is a developed hobby for some... but it really is just so great. i really could dedicate my life work to this. I think in the future- near future, very far future, doesn't really matter- I want to move to a third world country, be poor, live a really humble life, and just serve. just... serve other people and help clean up some tragedies and disasters we as a people have caused on others. Sometimes, I feel like if we all had the right mindset in love, our earth could just take a breath and all could be well. Sometimes, I wish I could stop genicide. Sometimes I wish I could share with someone exactly what or how I feel when I serve a fellow man. Could it be that bad? Could our world- we as humans- have so much hate??? How did we obtain so so much hate? Sometimes i think so hard my head hurts and my teeth hurt from grinding. and then I take a step back... and jeremy has let me know plenty of times nobody will get away with hurting me. and so I think- we have hate, because others do our family wrong. because others do us wrong. and we take it out on their entire kind. and it's really heartbreaking. sometimes I get nauseous when i think about it. but this is why I'm so grateful for forgiveness. and so grateful for freedom and agency and love and  p e a c e  and family and great, trusting friends. I really do live such a great life, filled with enough blessings to keep all the sad ghosts away. so therefore I'm also grateful for thought, and the ability to obtain perspective. thank goodness for that, because if not, I might just be a miserable old maid.

so...ADD ready........... go.

jeremy graduates 8 weeks from this coming thursday. I'm so excited to embarrass him with his entire family at his comencement (I know he'll secretly love it) and buy him many, many pairs of new scrubs (apparently there are some out there with the whole zippers, buttons, and tie strings sha-bang...) and a nurse bag!!!! I'm so excited for jeremy, because he's worked so so hard and studied so so much and he's finally there! light at the end of the tunnnnnnnnnnnnnel!! So proud of him :)

Also. We finally decided on a baby name. (again, not pregnant or planning on becoming so in the near future). but, we've come to some mutual agreement!!! We love Scarlett Anne. (nobody steal that or we will be highly unhappy!!!!) and I like Kiley jo. (or Jo as a middle name period). I LOVE the name Ella. Love the nickname Millie, but I don't want to name my daughter Millicent-- any ideas??? Also, still trying to let Charlotte grow on Jer. It'll have to. :) But, babies are far far far down the road; it's just nice to dream once in a while :) I went over to my best friend's house today, her mom's preggers, and I think I almost cried looking at all the baby stuff. I'm so excited for the new baby girl in the family, I could die!! It's not that I'm really THAT baby crazy, I just truly think they're a huge blessing in this world. they're sweet little miracles, that just break your heart. I feel like if everyone could feel the way I feel about babies, genicides would stop.

anyway... really random. I think it's time to log off. 5 more hours to finish laundry and freak-clean the rest of our home. :)

love love love.

so a funny prank was played on me the other day... *a mysterious someone* posted "guess what, I'm PREGNANT" as my facebook status. as hilarious as this was, it got me thinking about the way we as humans interact. It's crazy how many texts and comments I got within a half hour of that being posted. It just seems like everyone was telling me how excited they were and forgetting a few little details that they may or may not have considered...

Granted, yes, having a baby, no matter what, is going to be a huge blessing. But at the same time, anyone who knows me knows that I have a plan for everything. Jeremy and I had "a plan" even before we got engaged. We're both high-stressed people about being good parents. and yes, we would be worried about our abilities with neither of us having a real job, just renting, no insurance. yes, I got married young, but I didn't get married without thinking things through. Yes, somedays I hold family babies or play with toddlers and I can't help but feel my heartstrings tugging for little ones. and yes, it sounds crazy. and I know Jeremy feels it sometimes too. but we always always take a step back and remember our "what ifs"

so for final clarification. we are not having a baby (yet)!! We didn't get married just to have a baby, and we did not get married because I was already pregnant. I feel like all the recent newlywed couples around me get asked about babies all too soon. and if you say you want to wait, then Oh my land, you seem like this awful child-hating prude or something. and it just seems to me that we are all traveling down our little journeys criss-crossing, and we all want different things, and we all have different plans. In our case, yes, Jeremy and I do want me to finish nursing school and get my license before we start trying. simple as that.

and one last thing. I would NEVER post something like that over facebook. Jeremy and I would know for 3 months before we tell anyone, and then we'd tell family. and then maybe I'd post something on facebook. I just felt like a lot of people see someone else's status about something really serious and just take it to the extreme and freak out about it. and I also feel like a lot of super personal things are discussed on facebook that shouldn't be. yes, I'm I know I'm guilty of it too.

My thoughts are really jumbled in this post, so I apologize for that. I think I'm just still trying to figure out the way people think and all the reasonings behind it.

crafts much?

it's christmas. and it's been a great day. a great couple of days. :) it never ceases to awe me how Jer keeps surprising me with everything. yes, I married the love of my life. keeps me on my toes and in love. :)

okay, so everyone who knows me well, knows that I love crafts. I love doing things with my hand... knitting, crocheting, gluing, arts, pottery, etc. etc. so recently I developed a new interest in plaques. yes, strange as it sounds... yes. plaques. so anyway, I felt like making plaques for the family as a Christmas gift. I was pretty excited when I started off... but as time when on and it didn't seem like I was ever going to be done and I couldn't talk to anyone about it (except Jeremy), I got more and more frustrated (like I do with all crafts that take too long).

so here's just a quick overview of the process:

Jeremy helped me sneakily obtain scrap pieces of boards late one night, and the very exciting craft project began! I ripped up pieces of old notebook paper and glued them on all of these boards.



then spray paint (of course) came in the picture. I really do love this blue. However, Jeremy didn't really like it that it was done in our kitchen haha. it's okay, it made us both realize that I need a concrete crafts room in our dream home. :)

 then came the writing. I went through 3 different black sharpies to write on these boards. the Chinese character is a symbol for "love." (for my parents, if you didn't catch the drift haha). I also asked all the couples (well girls) on Jer's side what their song with their hubby was.

Collette and Travis's was "You and I" but Ingrid. one of my favorites :)

I got pretty frustrated with all of this work and had to take a lot of pictures in between. so hence... all of these pictures. Randy and Julie's was "If you leave me now" by Peter Cetera. Josh and Emily's was "this kiss" by Faith. Melissa Ann didn't give me one, so I put one of my favorite love song lyric for them... "faithfully" by Journey. and Kellen and Melissa's was "Smother Me" by the Used. the last empty square on the bottom was suppose to be ours. but, as I said... I was pretty exhausted. There was many double trips to the stores, and mod podge is now officially NOT my favorite thing to do.

I also made one for one of my best friends, Jessica and her boy Aaron. and their song is "untitled" by interpol. yes, this was also one of my favorites.

this was my parents and xmas eve. :)

Jeremy helped drilled holes in all of the plaques and I put ribbon through them...

and here they are all wrapped for the cute fam!

the end! well, now I know next time I embark on a craft like this, to plan for more time. I seriously finished wrapping these the night before Christmas!!

anyways. more about our Christmas to come!

love love love.

ps. merry xmas!